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Hey Folks,

It’s been slightly more then 2 months since I wrote my first post on the “9 Secret Steps To Life Transformation” series. It started with the simple vision that I wanted to pen down my success formula that I had put together through years of trial and error at my own cost. I wanted to share it with you and others like you who are interested to help yourself, which is probably why you are sitting here reading this blog.

I believed that abundance starts with giving and sharing. By sharing this gift, I believed that I will attract more into my life. More experience to gain, more positive people to meet, more things to learn and a more fulfilling life.

It is also my hope that my 9 steps has helped at least some of you in some ways. If it did, thank you. I thank you because, you made my sharing valuable and meaningful. If it had help no one or motivated none, it would have been futile. So, Thank You from the bottom of my heart.

If you have benefited from this series, I welcome you to leave a note or comment here. If you have any suggestion for me to improve, you may leave it here too

Before I sign off this post, here is a summary of all the post in the series for your easy reference:

Step 1 - Take Back Your Full Responsibility
Take Back Your Full Responsibility
Story 1 (Part 1)
Story 1 (Part 2)

Step 2 - Show Your Gratitude
Show Gratitude To What You Have
Karen’s Story On Gratitude
A Technique To Give Gratitude

Step 3 - Find Your Dreams
Find Your Dreams
The Ladder Of Dreams

Step 4 - Visualize Your Dreams
Visualize Your Dreams
8 Steps Visualization Technique

Step 5 - Feel Your Dreams
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 1)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 2)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 3)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 4)

Step 6 - Take Action
The Unspoken Secret Of “The Secret” Movie
Take Action
Do You Procrastinate
Bury The Procrastination Monster

Step 7 - Feel The Abundance
Do You Have Limiting Beliefs
Knowledge Creates Abundance
Karen Lim’s Abundance At Work

Step 8 - Stay On Course
Stay On Course
Learning From Steve Jobs

Step 9 - Study Your Reflection
Study Your Reflections
Study A Successful Refection
How To Choose The Right Mentor

Love,
James

PS: I came across this site telling this touching story about making a difference and it describe how I feel when I know I had made a difference. Enjoy - http://www.makeadifferencemovie.com/  (We are not related to the site but I love the story)

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Hi Folks,

In my last post, I mentioned how you can learn from the reflections of a successful person. In my past 3 years, I had learned from 3 different folks and I will be sharing with you how you can choose the right mentor, how to benefit from this relationship and how to maintain a healthy relationship.

The 3 things that I will be touching on today are :

• Choosing the right mentor
• Emptying your cup and learn from your mentor unreservedly
• Be accountable for your mentor’s time.

Choosing The Right Mentor
There are many successful people in any market. From the top tier big players to fiery hot newcomers. So who do you learn from?

First, you need to choose a mentor from within your industry/market, preferably doing or have done what you are about to do. This is an important because you want your mentor to teach you based on relevant experiences and process that works for whatever you are about to do. For example, If I were to be in the property market … would I chose a share trading expert to be my mentor? Probably not!

Second, you need to choose a mentor that is willing to teach you at your level or have a course tailored for your level of experience. For example, if you were new to share trading, if take Warren Buffett as the first mentor, chances are you won’t understand anything! Don’t get me wrong, he has a wealth of knowledge to impart. It’s just we won’t have the necessary knowledge to understand them. But if he has a program/course tailored for newbies, go for it.

Or alternatively, you can choose a good trader with a good track record with about 1 or 2 year experience and is willing to impart their knowledge. These folks have relevant experience for newbies and you can follow their footsteps. Oh, one advantage here is that their fees tend to be more affordable

When you have learned all you can from your current mentor, move on and seek out the next that you can learn from but don’t dump you current mentor. Now that you both have parity in knowledge, you can work as partners or in Joint Ventures! Never burn your bridges!

Emptying Your Cup
Scrutinize every potential mentor when you are choosing whom you would like to work with and learn from. But once you have decided on a mentor, put aside your personal opinions, throw away any preconception you have about the industry and it’s practices and bury any processes you thought may or may not work. In other words, Empty your cups! Open your mind and accept what your mentor teach and learn from them unreservedly. You have to trust your mentor, you have to trust that your choice was correct and cast away your doubts.

No mentoring program will work if you keep doubting what the mentor says and never put the process they teach into practice. If you cannot excise your doubt, don’t start any mentoring program. It will just be wasting both your time and your mentors time.

Be Accountable
You will probably be spending a small fortune getting yourself into a mentoring program. You will probably be thinking since I paid the fee, I should be entitled to the mentors time, right?

Yes, you will be entitled to whatever process that brought them success and he will spend the minimum amount of time required to impart you those skills.

And No, you will not get any second more then the basic entitlement. If you want a second more, you will have 2 way of getting it, pay more or show them that you deserve it! And from my experience, if you want the best advice and attention from your mentor, you have to show results! Results from following the advice. Results from your unrelenting hard work and pro activeness. They will be attracted to your success and willing impart more knowledge to make you more successful.

This is what I mean by being accountable to your mentor. Show them that you have trust in them, that you understood and followed their teachings and you have results to show. Given a group of students, 2 with results and the rest doesn’t. Who do you think the mentor would choose to spend his time with? Or ask yourself, when you conduct your own mentoring program and given the same situation, who would you spend the time with? Simple answer right?

So if you have never considered getting a mentor, I hope you will see the benefits of getting one. If you are looking for a mentor, I hope this article will help you choose the right mentor. If you already have a mentor but not getting result, reevaluate if you have got the right mentor or could your own attitude be the hindering factor? Understanding your situation and studying your own reflection will help you getting consistent success in whatever you do.

Love,
James

PS: I left out my own story as the article is getting too long. I hope to be able to include it in a future article or my upcoming Ebook.

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Hey Folks,

In my last post, I mentioned that you should study your own reflections of successes and failures so you can avoid factors contributing to failure and pursue factors favorable to success. But in life, we have only so much time we can try and hope we don’t get errors! So how do we minimized failures and maximize success within a limited time frame?

We study Successful Reflections! More accurately, we study successful people, their processes and their habits. We study their successes and their failures and we learn from them they way we learn from our own reflections.

There is an important aspect in life and that is “Success Leaves Traces“. All successful people have some common habits or common traits across the board and here are just some of their traits (notice how similar they are to our 9 steps) :

• They never blame others for their past failures
• They always give thanks to people who have helped them along the way
• They always have a dream
• They can usually describe their dreams vividly even before they reach it
• They walk the talk
• They share their experiences and knowledge
• They Never Give Up
• They usually end up with a biography

You could learn from them when they decide to publish their biography or you could actively seek them out as a mentor. Or more likely, you can buy one of the countless books they have published about certain aspects of their success or attend one of their seminars.

So how do you choose a mentor? I have listed my criteria which works for me:

1. They are successful in the same field I am in or aspire to be in
2. They have a set of principle or philosophy which I admire and wish to incorporate as my own
3. They write books and/or speak at seminars
4. They are willing to teach

Remember in my last post I mentioned about I mentioned that given any secret formula or process, it will work if you:

1. UNDERSTAND the process correctly;
2. APPLY the process correctly; and
3. Apply process under SIMILAR CIRCUMSTANCES.

Having a mentor is guide you on the process they have created gives you the best chance to get these 3 factors right. Who else could be better then the creator to tell you if you got it right, applied it correctly and known if your circumstances were similar to their circumstances? None other then the creator themselves, right?

So if you have been struggling with whatever goal you are trying to achieve now for the pass months or years or tried whatever secret formula and process to no avail. Take sometime to think about it, is there someone in your field that is successful and willing to teach or take on an apprentice/student or offer courses or seminars where you can learn directly from them. If there is, empty your cup and learn from them unreservedly.

In the next post, I will talk about my experience with my pass and present mentor. I will also talked about what worked and what did not and the 3 things that you need to do that will ensure a fruitful experience in learning from a mentor.

Love,
James

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Hey Folks,

Todays topic is “Study Your Reflections”. This is Step 9 in “9 Secret Steps To Life Transformation”.

No, I’m not talking about the reflection of yourself in your mirror although it is a good analogy. What I would like you to study are the factors that contributed to your success or failure to achieve your goal.

Like the old Chinese proverb - “Failure is the mother of all success”. If you happened to miss your goal, study why you missed it. Learn from it and progress.

If you are successful in achieving your goal. You also need to study the factors that contributed to your success.

So why do you need to study the factors that contributed to your success? Since you already understood the success formula (whether it is our 9 steps or other formula) and had just successfully implemented it to achieve your goal, you would think that you would able to replicate the success in future goals right? I would say, not necessary. So why it that the case?

What you need to understand is this, most (if not all) success formula is a process. It is a process that if it is understood correctly, applied correctly and under similar circumstances, it would guarantee a success! So let me spell the factors out clearly in point form. For any formula, secret, technique or whatever process to guarantee a success, the applicant needs:

1) To UNDERSTAND the process correctly;
2) To APPLY the process correctly; and
3) To apply process under SIMILAR CIRCUMSTANCES.

If you had applied any process before and wonder why it did not work for you but it supposedly worked for a great number of other people, it is very likely that you had learned/applied either 1, 2 or all 3 of the points wrongly.

Here is an example:

“100 person were taught a process to earn big money in the share market. At the end of 1 year, only 10 consistently made big money from share trading. 30 of them just broke even (made some and lost some). 30 of them made some and lost a lot. 20 of them still playing virtual trading and last 10 is still figuring out where to start.”

For those 10 that made it, they not only understood what was taught but understood how to apply the process and techniques correctly and knew under why market condition to apply the process. More often than not, they bother to asked their mentor, seek clarification when in doubt and practice what was taught consistently.

For those 30 that broke even, they probably got factors 1 and 2 correct but failed to grasp the market condition and hence could not consistently produce the same desired result.

For the 30 that made loses trading shares, they probably got factors 2 and 3 wrong or all 3 factors wrong! So when they do make some money, it was probably due to blind luck and the only consistent think they produce was money losing trades.

Oh and forget about the last 2 group, they could not even bother to start the real thing. These are procrastinators!

So whats the point of this story? The point is the second and third group could have improved their situation to become like the first group. By reflecting on those times they failed to understand the contributing factors and also to study the times they were successful and find out exactly what made it successful.

By applying the knowledge gain from this self reflection sessions, you will then be able to mold your future success by avoiding the factors that causes failures and attract factors that favors success!

And you know what? It all begins from you! You have to be willing to reflect on yourself. Yes you do celebrate each success but after each celebration, sit down and find out what made it a success. Then make doubly sure that the success contributing factor there on your journey to your next goal!

So have you recently reflected on any of your success or failure? Now is your turn to talk

Love,
James

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Hey Folks,

Welcome back! Today I will be sharing a speech given by Steve Jobs during the Commencement address at Stanford University in 2005. Click here for a transcript of the speech if you would rather read than watch.

Did you like it? I do and I learn 3 states of mindset that I have been using to counter the “noises” I mentioned in my last post. This is how I relate them:

The first story is about connecting the dots and I would like to bring your attention to this para:

“…you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them (the dots) looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in the future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road, will give you the confidence to follow your heart even if it leads you off the well worn path …”

Our journey in life is like playing the game “connecting the dot”. The difference between this and our childhood game is that there is no numbering of the dots! The dots are like you choices in life, which do you choose? When you lack the knowledge or skill to navigate the jumble of dots, which do you choose? I choose to do what Steve Jobs did in the beginning. I trust my feeling when I choose the next dot and I work towards acquiring the skills and knowledge necessary to make it happen. I trust that by doing all that I care to do, for what I want, that all the dots will be connected at the end.

In recent years, I developed the “Ladder of Dreams” which essentially “maps out the dots, looking backwards”. It puts the numbers back into the “connecting the dot” game. I have been using this technique with wonderful results and great success. If you have not read about it, you can do so here. Oh by the way, don’t throw Steve Jobs advice out of the window just yet. You still need to trust something to choose your “end dot” also know as “Your Dream” even if you choose to use the “Ladder of Dreams”.

I use this first mindset together with “Ladder of Dreams” to get rid of Road Blocks!

The second story is about love and loss and I would like to bring your attention to this para:

“Sometimes life gonna hit you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I am convince that the only thing that kept me going was that I love what I did … You’ve got to find what you love! That is as truth for work as it is for lovers. Your work is going to fill in a large part of your life and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do!”

It does not matter how well you plan your life and work your plan. It does not matter if you have the most positive mindset and attitude. It does not matter if you have not the slightest negative thought and you have always manifest and visualize only positive thing. Sometimes life will hit you in the head with a brick! Don’t Lose Faith!

Do not doubt if the Law of Attraction has malfunctioned. Do not doubt if you have somehow failed yourself. Do not doubt if someone is out to get you. Leave those aside, they ARE negative thoughts which will definitely attract negative events if they take hold. Instead view the event as natures way of shaping you up for bigger and better things in life. Pick yourself up and move forward.

I love the last part of this particular quote “And the only way to do great work is to love what you do!”. It matters that you love the things you do. It matters that you have passion in your belief. You love and passion will cushion any bricks flying your way and you will not give up without a fight! It does not matter if the negative thoughts comes as sudden as an avalanche or as consistent as a waterfall, you will be able to shrug it off like a prizefighter.

I use this second mindset to fight Negative Feedbacks!

The third story is about death and I would like to bring your attention to this para:

“If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today. And whenever the answer is been NO for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something. Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything, all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure. This things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly what is important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked, there is no reason not to follow your heart.”

Like I say in my last post, I have a weakness for distractions and I am still fighting it today. There are simply too many fun and attractive things to do. I would be perfectly happy doing them if not for the fact that they not only don’t help me achieve my dreams in life but they delay my dream indefinitely.

There was once were I would succumb to distractions every day and delay working my dream. Thankfully, those days are much much lesser now and the single most powerful thought is being describe by Steve Jobs in the quote “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”. Ask yourself this question and answer it truthfully. Serious! You will be surprise to find yourself working your dream harder than you have ever been and working it on the longest stretch you could ever remember.

Nowadays, I hardly complete a game that I love or finish watching a TV serial. Sometimes I never even complete a movie! But I do finish my task I set out to do in order to move my goal forward. Even when I declare a day off, I still couldn’t keep myself from checking my progress on my goal.

I use this last mindset to dispel Distractions!

It’s a long post …. and I had originally intended for it to be a 3 part posting. It’s not everyday that I write a long post like this. But after re-writing it a couple of times, I decided to publish it in it’s entirety so that you can get the full picture of what I wanted to share with you.

Love,
James

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