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Hey Folks,

In the recent weeks, we have been talking about career planning and sharing a free goal-setting tool in the last couple of days. I would like to share with you 11 areas of your life that you can set goals and see how it gives a new meaning to your life and improves it immediately. The 11 areas are:

Personal Life
People with goals and dreams in life tend to be happier as they know what to look forward to, what are they currently busy with and how it contributes to their goals and in general have a direction. It is the goals they set that gave the meaning of life to their personal life.

Studies
Having a goal and plan your studies around it not only allow you to attain the results you want but also prevent you from overloading yourself from studies. Over study is almost as bad as not studying and can cause nervous breakdowns in the extreme case.

Career
Employees with a strong set of career goals tend to perform at extra ordinary levels at work. It’s not that they are super beings; it’s just that they know that whatever they do, they do it for a purpose. Whatever hardship and tough times are there to training them and give them the experience to handle even bigger responsibilities. Hence, they also complain less and return a higher value to the company then they were paid for.

That is the real reason why they can make phenomenal progress at work given the same training, same number of working hours and same set of work to do.

Relationship
When you enter a relationship without a goal, it will end when the first problem surfaces. That’s what happened to my first relationship. I had a goal for my second one and now we are a family and we planning ahead for retirement.

Have a long term goal when you enter a relationship helps you to look beyond imperfections and find the balance necessary for long term relationship and a real chance to settle down.

Family
Every family is made up of at least 6 people. You and your spouse, your parents and your in-laws. If you thought relationship during courtship years were tough and dynamic, wait till you try family. It gets more dynamic after you factor in different customs, extended family members and finally kids!

My long-term goal for my family was for everyone to be happy with each other and to love one another. So far, so good.

Dream Home
Having clear goals when you look for your dream home will allow you to focus on what is important to you in your dream home and make you less likely to be distracted by a “nice to have” feature which is, well, nice to have but is not important to you. If you do not have a clear goal in mind, you will likely be muttering this a lot later, “Why didn’t I think of that?” or “Why did I buy this?”

It will happen even more often when you shop for the renovation for your brand new home.

Dream Car
Similar to Dream Home, except the whole car might be wrong!

Holiday
When planning for a holiday trip, know what you are holidaying for? For a relaxation, go for a cruise not a package tour. For shopping spree, don’t go Tibet! You get the drift, right?

Business
A million and one websites have talked about this. So I’ll go straight to the point. A business without a goal or dream is just replacement work. 10 year down the road, your business will still be the same size as before. If you can’t dream up a dream, don’t start a business.

Seminars & Trainings
Going for Seminars and Training without know what you want to get out of it is a pure waste of money. Without a goal to focus you in the seminar, you will never retain anything beneficial from it 3 months down the road.

Investments
Trying to do investment without a clear goal or objective will lead to greed which will ultimately lead to loses. Have a goal will force you to plan and adopt a profitable strategy that will earn you the returns to meet your goals and objectives.

If you think there are any other areas which I left out, please fill free to mention them

Cheers
James

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Hey Folks,

It’s been slightly more then 2 months since I wrote my first post on the “9 Secret Steps To Life Transformation” series. It started with the simple vision that I wanted to pen down my success formula that I had put together through years of trial and error at my own cost. I wanted to share it with you and others like you who are interested to help yourself, which is probably why you are sitting here reading this blog.

I believed that abundance starts with giving and sharing. By sharing this gift, I believed that I will attract more into my life. More experience to gain, more positive people to meet, more things to learn and a more fulfilling life.

It is also my hope that my 9 steps has helped at least some of you in some ways. If it did, thank you. I thank you because, you made my sharing valuable and meaningful. If it had help no one or motivated none, it would have been futile. So, Thank You from the bottom of my heart.

If you have benefited from this series, I welcome you to leave a note or comment here. If you have any suggestion for me to improve, you may leave it here too

Before I sign off this post, here is a summary of all the post in the series for your easy reference:

Step 1 - Take Back Your Full Responsibility
Take Back Your Full Responsibility
Story 1 (Part 1)
Story 1 (Part 2)

Step 2 - Show Your Gratitude
Show Gratitude To What You Have
Karen’s Story On Gratitude
A Technique To Give Gratitude

Step 3 - Find Your Dreams
Find Your Dreams
The Ladder Of Dreams

Step 4 - Visualize Your Dreams
Visualize Your Dreams
8 Steps Visualization Technique

Step 5 - Feel Your Dreams
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 1)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 2)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 3)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 4)

Step 6 - Take Action
The Unspoken Secret Of “The Secret” Movie
Take Action
Do You Procrastinate
Bury The Procrastination Monster

Step 7 - Feel The Abundance
Do You Have Limiting Beliefs
Knowledge Creates Abundance
Karen Lim’s Abundance At Work

Step 8 - Stay On Course
Stay On Course
Learning From Steve Jobs

Step 9 - Study Your Reflection
Study Your Reflections
Study A Successful Refection
How To Choose The Right Mentor

Love,
James

PS: I came across this site telling this touching story about making a difference and it describe how I feel when I know I had made a difference. Enjoy - http://www.makeadifferencemovie.com/  (We are not related to the site but I love the story)

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Hi Folks,

In my last post, I mentioned how you can learn from the reflections of a successful person. In my past 3 years, I had learned from 3 different folks and I will be sharing with you how you can choose the right mentor, how to benefit from this relationship and how to maintain a healthy relationship.

The 3 things that I will be touching on today are :

• Choosing the right mentor
• Emptying your cup and learn from your mentor unreservedly
• Be accountable for your mentor’s time.

Choosing The Right Mentor
There are many successful people in any market. From the top tier big players to fiery hot newcomers. So who do you learn from?

First, you need to choose a mentor from within your industry/market, preferably doing or have done what you are about to do. This is an important because you want your mentor to teach you based on relevant experiences and process that works for whatever you are about to do. For example, If I were to be in the property market … would I chose a share trading expert to be my mentor? Probably not!

Second, you need to choose a mentor that is willing to teach you at your level or have a course tailored for your level of experience. For example, if you were new to share trading, if take Warren Buffett as the first mentor, chances are you won’t understand anything! Don’t get me wrong, he has a wealth of knowledge to impart. It’s just we won’t have the necessary knowledge to understand them. But if he has a program/course tailored for newbies, go for it.

Or alternatively, you can choose a good trader with a good track record with about 1 or 2 year experience and is willing to impart their knowledge. These folks have relevant experience for newbies and you can follow their footsteps. Oh, one advantage here is that their fees tend to be more affordable

When you have learned all you can from your current mentor, move on and seek out the next that you can learn from but don’t dump you current mentor. Now that you both have parity in knowledge, you can work as partners or in Joint Ventures! Never burn your bridges!

Emptying Your Cup
Scrutinize every potential mentor when you are choosing whom you would like to work with and learn from. But once you have decided on a mentor, put aside your personal opinions, throw away any preconception you have about the industry and it’s practices and bury any processes you thought may or may not work. In other words, Empty your cups! Open your mind and accept what your mentor teach and learn from them unreservedly. You have to trust your mentor, you have to trust that your choice was correct and cast away your doubts.

No mentoring program will work if you keep doubting what the mentor says and never put the process they teach into practice. If you cannot excise your doubt, don’t start any mentoring program. It will just be wasting both your time and your mentors time.

Be Accountable
You will probably be spending a small fortune getting yourself into a mentoring program. You will probably be thinking since I paid the fee, I should be entitled to the mentors time, right?

Yes, you will be entitled to whatever process that brought them success and he will spend the minimum amount of time required to impart you those skills.

And No, you will not get any second more then the basic entitlement. If you want a second more, you will have 2 way of getting it, pay more or show them that you deserve it! And from my experience, if you want the best advice and attention from your mentor, you have to show results! Results from following the advice. Results from your unrelenting hard work and pro activeness. They will be attracted to your success and willing impart more knowledge to make you more successful.

This is what I mean by being accountable to your mentor. Show them that you have trust in them, that you understood and followed their teachings and you have results to show. Given a group of students, 2 with results and the rest doesn’t. Who do you think the mentor would choose to spend his time with? Or ask yourself, when you conduct your own mentoring program and given the same situation, who would you spend the time with? Simple answer right?

So if you have never considered getting a mentor, I hope you will see the benefits of getting one. If you are looking for a mentor, I hope this article will help you choose the right mentor. If you already have a mentor but not getting result, reevaluate if you have got the right mentor or could your own attitude be the hindering factor? Understanding your situation and studying your own reflection will help you getting consistent success in whatever you do.

Love,
James

PS: I left out my own story as the article is getting too long. I hope to be able to include it in a future article or my upcoming Ebook.

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Hey Folks,

In my last post, I mentioned that you should study your own reflections of successes and failures so you can avoid factors contributing to failure and pursue factors favorable to success. But in life, we have only so much time we can try and hope we don’t get errors! So how do we minimized failures and maximize success within a limited time frame?

We study Successful Reflections! More accurately, we study successful people, their processes and their habits. We study their successes and their failures and we learn from them they way we learn from our own reflections.

There is an important aspect in life and that is “Success Leaves Traces“. All successful people have some common habits or common traits across the board and here are just some of their traits (notice how similar they are to our 9 steps) :

• They never blame others for their past failures
• They always give thanks to people who have helped them along the way
• They always have a dream
• They can usually describe their dreams vividly even before they reach it
• They walk the talk
• They share their experiences and knowledge
• They Never Give Up
• They usually end up with a biography

You could learn from them when they decide to publish their biography or you could actively seek them out as a mentor. Or more likely, you can buy one of the countless books they have published about certain aspects of their success or attend one of their seminars.

So how do you choose a mentor? I have listed my criteria which works for me:

1. They are successful in the same field I am in or aspire to be in
2. They have a set of principle or philosophy which I admire and wish to incorporate as my own
3. They write books and/or speak at seminars
4. They are willing to teach

Remember in my last post I mentioned about I mentioned that given any secret formula or process, it will work if you:

1. UNDERSTAND the process correctly;
2. APPLY the process correctly; and
3. Apply process under SIMILAR CIRCUMSTANCES.

Having a mentor is guide you on the process they have created gives you the best chance to get these 3 factors right. Who else could be better then the creator to tell you if you got it right, applied it correctly and known if your circumstances were similar to their circumstances? None other then the creator themselves, right?

So if you have been struggling with whatever goal you are trying to achieve now for the pass months or years or tried whatever secret formula and process to no avail. Take sometime to think about it, is there someone in your field that is successful and willing to teach or take on an apprentice/student or offer courses or seminars where you can learn directly from them. If there is, empty your cup and learn from them unreservedly.

In the next post, I will talk about my experience with my pass and present mentor. I will also talked about what worked and what did not and the 3 things that you need to do that will ensure a fruitful experience in learning from a mentor.

Love,
James

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Hi Folks,

Since we started the series “9 Secret Steps To Life Transformation“, from time to time we will receive emails asking Karen or Myself questions pertaining to certain situations or asking for clarification on certain points we mentioned in our post.

We love all these emails and we response to each and everyone of them, sharing with them how we would handle the situation ourselves if we were in their shoes based on our own experience and our understanding of the Law of Attraction.

Then Karen suddenly said “Why not we share some of the questions and answers with our reader on our blog? The question is certainly relevant and our answers may benefit a lot of folks out there but we need to masked the name of the reader who is asking the question.”

“What an excellent idea!” I thought and here it is, our first “Share An Answer” Post. The question was asked after our reader read this post - “9 Secret Steps To Life Transformation: Karen Lim’s Abundance At Work” and here’s the question (published with readers permission):

“Hi Karen,

Was reading your recent blog about asking for help with project management and have some questions.

What do you do when you get negative or aggressive reactions when you ask people something, even though your questions are perfectly legitimate? I’m also interested in knowing your immediate Feelings when you get a negative reaction.

Hugs
xxxxxx”

And here is Karen’s reply:

“Hi xxxxxx

It all begins with our own thought.

If you are thinking negatively, you will perceive some one’s question/response to be negative. It is all about perception.

Even when I get very heated response from someone else (eg someone shouting at me), I will not response back negatively. This is the sure way to make the person cool down and may even get an apology for the behavior later. And I will accept his/her apology gracefully. That is my perception of life. Why get angry with someone and become sad/hurt yourself? Make no sense to me.

Well, I probably wouldn’t behave in such a COOL manner a few years back. I could do it now because my perception of life and people has changed. Whatever others may perceive, if it is positive, I like to enjoy their positivity. If their response is negative, I will ignore them and do not join in or participate in the negativity.

Cheers
Karen”

Most people feel distressed or helpless or victimized when they are abused verbally or faced with an aggressive person for no reason at all. They tend to think that they have attracted it to themselves. “What have I done to deserve this treatment? ” or “Why me again?” is always the first thing on their mind. So did they really attracted it in the first place?

Not necessary, you could have just caught the person in a foul mood exactly at the wrong moment. A classic case of being at the wrong place at the wrong time.

And what if you had attracted it! You always think “Will boss be mad at me today?” everyday, surely you WILL end up doing something to attract him at his worst moment!

But that beside the point. My point today is how you can handle it when you find yourself in that position whether intentionally or unintentionally. In all these cases, the best defense is stay calm and don’t overreact to the verbal abuse or aggressiveness. Any thing you say will likely be akin to adding fuel to fire and trigger more aggressive or abusive response.

Your lack of response may make him madder at first but trust me when I say he will get over it when he realized that he is acting like a clown or monkey in front of an unappreciative audience. And just like in Karen’s case, when the abuser realized that he was venting his anger on the wrong person, you may just get that sweet apology.

Your turn to talk: What do you think of this share an answer post? Does it benefit you? Is it OK for you as a reader? Do you have a question you are dying to ask us or get our opinion? You can comment here or sent your questions to karenlim88@gmail.com with the subject (Share An Answer) .

Love,
James

PS: If you do not wish your questions and answers to be publish at all, please do state so. It is our policy that we do not publish names under any circumstances unless explicitly instructed to do so.

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