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Hey Folks,

Today I will talk about something that has been talked about countless of times but I will talk about it again based on my perspective of the subject and the subject for today’s post is the Law of Attraction.

There are many explanations or definitions for The Law of Attraction, from Quantum Physics point of view to New Age movement to New Thought philosophy. I shall offer my view of what Law of Attraction means to me, how it works and why it works the way it works.

My Definition Of The Law Of Attraction
To me, the Law of Attraction is nothing but the reflection of ourselves! Yes, you heard me right the first time. The Law of Attraction is nothing but a reflection of ourselves. What you think, you become. It is without prejudice and it does not know the difference between a positive and a negative thought. It reflects what you are thinking and helps you attract whatever you are doing.

That is why people with an abundance mindset always seemed to able to find solutions to a problem or get good deals where none seems to exist. While people with limiting beliefs always seemed to find more problems and get no opportunities at all! Same situations with different thoughts and they get different results!

Testing My Definition
You can test out this theory anytime you like and it will work every time. I like to use driving as an example. When I am in a happy mood with ample time to take a relaxing drive to my appointment, I will tend to focus on positive things I encounter on the road. I will spot drivers signaling before changing lanes, I will tend to give way willingly and be happy about it, I will keep within the speed limit and stay off the overtaking lane. In general, I will find everything enjoyable about driving.

When I am in a bad mood and especially when I am running late. I tend to curse all the way to my destination about inconsiderate drivers hogging the overtaking lane. Why? Because I am trying to overtake on that lane too while driving at excessive speed sometimes. I get even more frustrated as I focus on little things that gets me frustrated. Oh and I won’t even notice that 70% of the other road users were nice that day.

Go ahead and try it but it may be a good idea to bring a neutral party along (preferably someone who is close to you), they tend to see the difference clearly. Karen (my wife) is usually my mirror in all these situations.

Practicing The Law Of Attraction
There you go. No complicated explanations, just simple observations that even my grandpa will understand. So if you want to apply the Law of Attraction in the positive way to get a better life, here is how you can do it in 3 simple, yet practical steps:

Step 1: Understanding Your Thoughts
Before you decide that you want to change, you must at least know from who you are changing from. I cannot decide for you what you need to change, you will have to look inwards, sort them out, discard what you don’t want and keep those that you want. Then look at your “new self” again and decide if that is what you want.

For me, thoughts that I had decided to throw away are:

- Procrastination
- Laziness
- Shyness
- Arrogance
- Fear of Failure

Now decide if there is any beneficial thoughts that you are lacking that you want to have. Add them in your “new self”. For me, I have added:

- Responsibility
- Gratitude
- Perseverance

Review your “new self” again. If you like what you see, write the qualities of your “new self” down on a piece of paper, a reminder card, your vision board or anything that you can easily and conveniently remind yourself with.

Step 2: Change Your Thoughts
Now that you have decided the new qualities you would like to have in your “new self”, you need to let your new thoughts grow its roots while you weed out those thoughts you want to throw away. The first thing you need to do is to believe in yourself and believe that you can change for the better.

Next write down a list of actions/habits that would overcome those thoughts you decided to throw away and a list of actions/habits associated with those new beneficial thoughts that you would like to gain. Here’s my example:

Habits To Overcome (Thrown Away Thoughts)
- Just Do It (Procrastination)
- Do It Now (Laziness)
- Just Asked, No One Is Going To Eat You (Shyness)
- Empty Your Cup And Learn (Arrogance)
- Gain Knowledge And Just Do It (Fear of Failure)

Habits To Inculcate (For Thoughts Gained)
- Don’t Blame Anyone But Yourself (Responsibility)
- Be Thankful For Every Little Thing (Gratitude)
- If You Start, Don’t Stop (Perseverance)

Done writing them down like mine? Great! Now erase the bad thoughts (first section, in brackets) away leaving only the habits portion! It should look like this now:

Habits To Overcome
- Just Do It
- Do It Now
- Just Asked, No One Is Going To Eat You
- Empty Your Cup And Learn
- Gain Knowledge And Just Do It

Habits To Inculcate (For Thoughts Gained)
- Don’t Blame Anyone But Yourself (Responsibility)
- Be Thankful For Every Little Thing (Gratitude)
- If You Start, Don’t Stop (Perseverance)

Now you have to focus on drilling in your new habits. To do this effectively, you need to remind yourself that this are the habits you want, consciously, by reading what you have written daily. Reward yourself when you followed your new habits successfully - this actually strokes your sub-conscious mind and reprograms it to accept your new thoughts/habits.

Notice that we never even mentioned anything about bad thoughts? We only focus on the good habits that can overcome the bad thoughts. Why is that so? Because you don’t want to be reminded of the bad thoughts and in the process attracting them back again!

Step 3: Follow Your Thoughts
I have been told that it takes about 28 days to change one thought (completely) so does it mean that you need to change one thought at a time? I am not sure because I did it all at once. What I am sure is that you need to at least follow your new habits, keep track of your progress for at least 30 days, probably more. But once you cross that imaginary line where your new habits take hold. You will be surprise at the benefits it brings.

I believed that you have heard of the phrase “Birds of a feather flock together”. That’s what will happen once you are transformed, you will start to notice that you get to know more people with similar thoughts. If you got rid of procrastination, those “friends” that procrastinate will drift away from you and you get to attract new friends that are oriented towards taking action. The more you attract, the more you are motivated to do whatever is in line with your thoughts.

Summary
By now some of you may be asking “I thought this was about using Law of Attraction to attract things that I want?”, well, that is where most people got it wrong! Many believers of “Law of Attraction” just sit around trying to manifest their dreams. When their dreams are small and only requires a shift in focus to achieve, it comes true. But when the dream is beyond their current capabilities to attain, it will never come true no matter how hard they manifest. This is especially true when they have some limiting thoughts. Then they start to assign blame.

The natural path of “Law of Attraction” begins with changing yourself. When you are properly geared towards achieving success, even the sky won’t be a limit. This is my way of applying “Law of Attraction” practically. It is that simple and it has been around for ages!

I believe each human being has the potential to change,
to transform one’s own attitude, no matter how difficult the situation.
- 14th Dalai Lama

I believed that everyone can change and be successful if he allows himself to be. Nothing I say or do will have any effect until you are ready to receive. If you are ready, the way is open. Do leave me a comment to share your thoughts.

Love,
James

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Hey Folks,

It’s been slightly more then 2 months since I wrote my first post on the “9 Secret Steps To Life Transformation” series. It started with the simple vision that I wanted to pen down my success formula that I had put together through years of trial and error at my own cost. I wanted to share it with you and others like you who are interested to help yourself, which is probably why you are sitting here reading this blog.

I believed that abundance starts with giving and sharing. By sharing this gift, I believed that I will attract more into my life. More experience to gain, more positive people to meet, more things to learn and a more fulfilling life.

It is also my hope that my 9 steps has helped at least some of you in some ways. If it did, thank you. I thank you because, you made my sharing valuable and meaningful. If it had help no one or motivated none, it would have been futile. So, Thank You from the bottom of my heart.

If you have benefited from this series, I welcome you to leave a note or comment here. If you have any suggestion for me to improve, you may leave it here too

Before I sign off this post, here is a summary of all the post in the series for your easy reference:

Step 1 - Take Back Your Full Responsibility
Take Back Your Full Responsibility
Story 1 (Part 1)
Story 1 (Part 2)

Step 2 - Show Your Gratitude
Show Gratitude To What You Have
Karen’s Story On Gratitude
A Technique To Give Gratitude

Step 3 - Find Your Dreams
Find Your Dreams
The Ladder Of Dreams

Step 4 - Visualize Your Dreams
Visualize Your Dreams
8 Steps Visualization Technique

Step 5 - Feel Your Dreams
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 1)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 2)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 3)
How To Keep Your Dreams Alive (Part 4)

Step 6 - Take Action
The Unspoken Secret Of “The Secret” Movie
Take Action
Do You Procrastinate
Bury The Procrastination Monster

Step 7 - Feel The Abundance
Do You Have Limiting Beliefs
Knowledge Creates Abundance
Karen Lim’s Abundance At Work

Step 8 - Stay On Course
Stay On Course
Learning From Steve Jobs

Step 9 - Study Your Reflection
Study Your Reflections
Study A Successful Refection
How To Choose The Right Mentor

Love,
James

PS: I came across this site telling this touching story about making a difference and it describe how I feel when I know I had made a difference. Enjoy - http://www.makeadifferencemovie.com/  (We are not related to the site but I love the story)

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Hi Folks,

Are you surprised to find a big cartoon on top? Heh heh. It has been my dream since early last month (June) that I would be able to put up some cartoons myself to entertain my readers or simply to bring on some lighter moments. I tried my hand with some graphical cartoons a couple of post back with penguins using a kids drawing software! But it didn’t suit my style and seriously, I could not draw that well and I’m too lazy to learn (hah, I procrastinate too!).

But seriously, I wasn’t procrastinating but I had more important projects on hand and just couldn’t find the time to do it properly. But nonetheless, it was always on my mind every time I write a post. The last 2 days, including today and probably tomorrow, I was out with a throat infection and a bad cough, the medicine is knocking me out most of the time. But would you believe that what you saw up there was a dream I had when I was sleeping?

It’s true, I had a dream and it outlined how I could create a comic that was inline with what I know and the template is build around my current skill … that is, no drawing. The theme, Odds & Evens describes the 2 thoughts and beliefs and are characterize by their fonts …. Odd is hard, rigid and unwilling to believe while Even is soft, fluid and always ready to pursue a dream. I thought that it was perfect for me to describe the 2 schools of thoughts about Law of Attraction or generally about Positivity Thoughts.

I read somewhere where someone said that “Sleeping is the best form of Meditation”. I think there is truth in that statement but most people tend to forget what they dream of. I tend to remember. Karen remembers hers too, crystal clear. And we wonder if our Attraction Accelerator music or OptiMINDzation has anything to do with that? Dear readers who have the gotten the beta wave music, any similar experiences?

Do let me know if you like it and any suggestion on how I can improve will be welcome. I am really an amateur being a cartoonist.

Love,
James

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Hi,

What I am sharing today is a True Story.

Have you ever felt stressed over a job assignment? You know, the kind that you just don’t know what to do, how to handle or simply out of your depth of comprehension? The kind of assignment that you think was assigned to you to make you quit the job (or as they say “look for a greener pasture”)? I have been through a few round.

In the past, before I learn of the Law of Attraction, when I was assigned the implementation of an IT project for my company. I would dread it from the moment it was assigned to me. I am not a technical person and I do not know how to manage an IT project from conception to implementation. I felt that it would take too long for me to learn and I have no idea what I was supposed to do so naturally I do what most people in similar situation will do. I quit!

A few years and another job later, I was in a similar situation and I needed to implement an IT project for my company. I am still as nontechnical as I was and still have yet to manage any IT project from conception to implementation but now I understand what Abundance is about and I could see choices and options that I have never seen before.

As James mentioned in his last post, Knowledge can create Abundance. That is what I chose to do. I acquired knowledge. Not from books, not from course but from James (He was previously an IT Project Manager, hee hee). So why didn’t I think of that last time, again it’s about limited mindset (I belief it could not be done, with or without James help and advice) and hence limited choices.

I learn from him that I need to concentrate on the “Management” aspect of the project and let the vendors offer the technical advice and solutions. I learn from him that I need to enlist the full support of upper and middle management and key users in the implementation of the IT project and make them understand their responsibilities towards the project (I would have had a heart attack if I had to do this in the past). I learn from him that project management is all about managing schedule, collecting and understanding requirements, moderating user’s expectations and basically getting a workable system up and running that is usable within an acceptable time frame and budget!

At the end, it still wasn’t an easy assignment but neither was it “Mission Impossible”. With knowledge, I ended up with a lot of choices to choose from. Choices such as:

• It’s too technical or It’s about management
• It’s too much work or It can be delegated
• It’s my responsibility or It’s my colleague’ responsibility as well
• There’s too much with too short a time or It’s about which is important given the time frame
• Management does not support me or I need to win management support
• And many other choices, major and minor ones

To be honest, the choices were always there but we limit them by our limited mindset. What I did was to open the door to Abundance with a key called knowledge. And the key reasoning that helped me was when James said this

“No company would like to spend tens and hundreds of thousand to implement a project doomed to failure, they might as well save the money. No software company is out to mess up their own project, reputation and incur a liability, they might as well don’t take the project. Hence, I conclude that no one is out to mess up your assignment unless you mess it up yourself. If that is the case, you have the choice to turn down the assignment and save yourself the trouble!”

I would say that without those new knowledge I acquire from James on how to manage that project, the chances of messing up would be high.

So how does the Law of Attraction fit into all this? Knowing Law of Attraction allowed me to handle difficulties with a positive attitude and see immediate choices to fill the gap between where I am to my end goal. Once of those choices was learning from James (he was always there beside me but I never bother to tap into this side of his knowledge) and I took it.

Acquiring that knowledge creates an Abundance of choices that led to more knowledge and choices and it goes on, as long as you focus on the positive side of things and keep pressing on. Issues with work, resistance to change, tight work schedules of co-workers, uncountable requirements that everyone wants implemented and countless perceived negative situation are bound to pop up here and there. We have to acknowledge and work around them.

One of the most important lessons I learn in this period was to ASK when in doubt, ASK when you need more information, ASK when you need clarification, ASK to confirm if you have to and never ASSUME. Asking is a very powerful way of tapping into the knowledge of the people around you.

Understand this, what we are sharing here may sound like a different concept of abundance commonly discussed elsewhere but actually they are the same. We just add a missing piece of the puzzle where many people could not bridge (i.e. what you need to do to get from limited to abundance mindset). Knowledge is one of the many possible missing piece of puzzle that can close that gap and I hope by sharing my story, you will embrace Abundance by acquiring whatever necessary knowledge you need.

Hugs,
Karen

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Hey Folks,

In my last post, I told you that the key to an abundance mindset involves just a simple change in your mindset.

For those who could grasp the concept, the change is simple and immediate. It’s light switching on the light in a dark room and every thing suddenly becomes so clear! But as with every circumstances, there are always cases where it is not so simple. Some perspective just can’t be changed like throwing a switch. Some minds just can’t be opened up so simply.

So what’s the solution? How do we “Open Up” these minds? One word: KNOWLEDGE.

Knowledge opens up possibilities and choices. Knowledge opens up new avenue and ways to do things. So how do you acquire the knowledge you need and where do you acquire them? Well, you can acquire it

1) By reading a book
2) Attending a Seminar or Course
3) By further Studies
4) From a Mentor
5) From your friends/colleagues/people around you
6) By simply Observing and Learning

Didn’t I say that the key was lying around you? Could you find someone or something from the above choice that you can learn from? I bet you could. So if you need more options, more opportunities, you know what to do now, right?

However, do take note of relevance. If you want more choices in career advancement then read, study, learn something relevant to your career or pick up a career enhancing skill. If you need more customers for your business, observe and learn from a successful businessman in your trade!

Next post on Friday (20 Jul), Karen will share a real life story related to Abundance. So stay tuned.

Love,
James

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